Mature gay men and lesbians can often feel like unwanted gatecrashers in the club and bar scene once middle-age creeps in. “The bulk of my searching for a partner, even just to have sex, has been online, which isn’t as successful or as easy as you might think.” “I can’t go to a club in jeans and pretend the age thing doesn’t bother me when half the customers were born when the Teletubbies launched. He never thought about having to go back out on to the gay scene until recently, only to realise that “it’s a very different world” from when he was in his late thirties.įeeling excluded from the party isn’t too difficult in a society where even 20-year-olds talk about getting Botox. Thomas is 56, lives in Harrogate, and recently came out of a 13-year relationship. There are other ways than the gay club secene to find love.
